Transition Trips to Carrollton TX

I’ve now made two trips to Texas since the beginning of the year and am planning a third. They are very different than before my parents moved to an assisted living group home.

• I am not staying at their home. On the first trip, I stayed at a hotel relatively close to their group home. The second trip I stayed with my niece. The hotel turned out to be high stress because the deadbolt on my room was jammed (i.e. the chain was the only extra locking on the door). Staying with my niece was low stress for me but probably high stress for her.

• Visits with my parents were short…not 24/7 like previously. I anticipated that change…but it still feels odd…like I am missing a lot. At the same time, I am much less anxious about how they are doing when me or my sisters are not there.

• My sisters and I worked to get the house cleaned out and listed for sale. This is the first time I’ve been guiding the sale of a house that is not my own…and I am glad that the technology is there to allow for me to do part of it remotely. We got 2 full price offers on the 1st day it was on the market and have accepted one of them. We still have the garage and storage sheds to clear. We have the milestone of the closing by the end of the month. There is still the physical and emotional work of cleaning out items collected over my parents’ lives that they no longer need. The unseasonably warm weather has helped.

• I stopped at Hagerman once…went to Josey Ranch twice…but didn’t spend as much time there. I stopped at a greenway park I hadn’t noticed before on the second trip. The places I get out into nature in Texas are going to be changing to parks closer to where my parents are living now…in Dallas rather than Carrollton.

• We had joked about observing the 4/8 eclipse from my parents’ driveway…but the house will that theirs by that time. I am realizing how many family events centered on the location over the past 30+ years. It will feel strange to not go there anymore.

The transition is happening so quickly with their move to assisted living in early January and the sale of their home finalized at the end of February. It is hard emotionally and physically, but it is also not a prolonged agony. My sisters and I are looking forward to a new normal in March!

Bidding on a House from Afar

We bid on a house in Springfield MO from afar (at home in Maryland). It has been accepted and we are starting a road trip to see the house in person – remove the ‘sight unseen’ rider in the bid and get the earnest money to the title company. I am writing the post about how we got to this point. There is a lot that has changed since we bought our current house more than 25 years ago.

I have been looking at houses that came on the market in Springfield MO via realtor.com for more than a year – familiarizing myself with the neighborhoods and the types of housing that were available. When my daughter was looking for houses last spring, I honed my search with her criteria, and she found the house she wanted quickly.

I thought I had my own criteria well defined…but it is only in the past few weeks that I realized that I was getting enthusiastic about houses that really would not work well for us. It was too easy to overlook the number of steps going into the front of house (and from the garage); I knew I wanted as few steps as possible; with this move, my husband and I wanted a house where we could ‘age in place.’ My husband wanted to do astronomy from our back yard. That requirement often seemed to be in direct conflict with an easy-care yard and connection to city water/sewer. I found myself toying with the idea of a larger property with well/septic and hiring someone to keep the yard/field cut. There was about a month when I thought we wanted a house that was all on one floor; I quickly discovered there were not many that had enough square footage and my husband pushed the idea that we needed a basement as a storm shelter since Missouri is back into the part of the country that has violent storms.

I made a trip to Springfield and looked at some houses; a learning experience – nothing to bid on and we needed to get our ‘proof of funds’ letter from the bank organized anyway. Over the past couple of weeks, we kept thinking that more houses would come on the market; there were quite a few but they weren’t perfect matches and many sold very quickly. We did 3 virtual tours – discovering more problems with them than we expected: no good view of the sky, too many steps and sometimes they made the third garage unusable for a vehicle, sloping lots, small closets, etc.

Then one came on the market that looked near perfect. The problem was the only picture of a laundry room showed it in the basement…which meant stairs to do our laundry. We asked if there was a laundry on the main floor and there wasn’t. We rejected the house for about 24 hours. After going to sleep frustrated with the houses available, I woke up realizing that if everything else was right with that house, we’d put in a way to get the laundry between floors. We asked for a virtual tour. Everything else was right….AND there was a laundry chute already in the house which would make it relatively easy to put in a dumbwaiter type device for the laundry!

We worked with our realtor on an offer. They had a system where it could all be done electronically. Our agent sent our offer to the seller’s agent via email. And less that 24 hours later, the offer was accepted. Our focus now is on traveling to see the house, being there when the inspection is done…preparing to move.

The house hunting phase of the process is complete.

Our new House: House Hunting (1)

I’ve looked at 5 houses in Springfield, MO…am gaining more appreciation of the changes in house hunting in the intervening 25 years since I last moved. I did the looking in Springfield while my husband was at home in Maryland but we both are refining our expectations based on this initial foray into house hunting.

Some of the changes in house hunting include:

• The amount of information available via sites like www.realtor.com. Most houses for sale have 30+ pictures (most professionally done). There are flood and noise overlays on maps as well as satellite images and street views. The verbiage provides a varying amount of information but is often quite detailed. I learned a lot looking at Springfield houses virtual while my daughter was house hunting last year and them more recently for us.

• Since the neighborhood is listed on listing sites – it is sometimes worth looking at the HOA covenants which might be available online as well. This has turned out to be important to us since my husband wants to have a small observatory for his telescope in the back yard; some neighborhoods in Springfield (and probably elsewhere) don’t allow extra small structures like that…and some don’t allow fences!

• Now there is an expectation that the buyer will provide a pre-approved loan or cash purchase letter from financial institution before bidding on a house. The days of doing loan application after agreement is reached on purchase price (like we did 25 years ago) are no more. This is our first time to not need a mortgage to purchase the house…but we hadn’t realized that we needed to get a letter saying we had the cash in hand for the purchase!

• There is less time spent in the house before bidding. In our previous house hunting, we had to take whatever pictures we needed to remember the house we bid on…and to plan where our furniture would be placed as the movers unloaded into the new house. This time we can do a bit more with the pictures already available even though we might need to measure rooms that might be ‘tight’ or in houses that are photographed empty (so no furniture to judge room sizes). Sometimes dimensions of bedrooms are included in the verbiage part of the listing online…but not always.

• We had assumed we needed a basement for storm shelter…but a clean ‘crawl’ space with easy access from within the house or garage may be adequate too. We had not seen houses built like this previously but there are some in Springfield that have unfinished, unfloored spaces under the house that are tall enough to walk into!

• Technology can allow detailed walk throughs remotely. I started a DUO call with my husband (we both have Android phones) at one of the houses so I could show him the situation for astronomy at the house. It worked relatively well, and we may need to do something similar with our agent if the perfect house comes on the market and we can’t get to Springfield fast enough to bid. The pace of the housing market is much faster than 25 years ago.

Overall – we made a start. Not to get our letter from the bank and get serious. My next visit to Springfield will probably be for The House!

From the basement: pictures from house hunting in 1983

I’ve found boxes of old pictures I hadn’t looked at since we moved into our current house about 25 years ago in the basement during my increased time at home. It’s hard not to go off on a tangent and think about that history while I am scanning pictures (and/or the negatives). This post was prompted by pictures from when my husband and I moved from Texas to the east coast for new jobs in 1983. At the time there were house listings, but they were accessible only to realtors and they didn’t include any pictures. We had a week of house hunting paid for by our new employers and we were in the process of buying a house at the end of that week! We took pictures of the top contenders with a Polaroid as well as my husband’s Canon: the Polaroids to help us decide (not rely totally on our memory of each house while we were debating) and the others to develop after we got back to Texas so that we could make detailed plans on how we would arrange our furniture in the house when we moved in late June/early July.

The pictures of houses we didn’t buy are thrown away…and the ones I’m using in this post are the film photos (I was surprised that the Polaroids were still in good shape as well) of the house we bought. The house was about 30 years old and had some light remodeling. It’s the only house I’ve owned that had a gas stove…and no fireplace. It was my first house with a basement. The yard was the high point of the place: large oak and beech tress…mature boxwood and azaleas…raised beds on two sides of the back yard. The backyard had more moss than grass. It was like a green carpet. It was quite a change from the smaller trees and overall drier conditions in the part of Texas I was moving from.

My favorite aspect of the kitchen was the pantry!

OK – now I’m telling myself to get off this tangent and back to cleaning out the basement….